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40-year-old Cynthia Frary of Painesville signed up for Lighten Up for a simple reason: To save her life. After suffering a heart attack, Frary's doctor told her that if she didn't lose weight, it was a death sentence. She got serious after that and she's on her way to a healthy life.

Friday, June 8, 2012

The Underdog

This past week has had it's ups and downs like most weeks.  I weighed in last Saturday for a total weigh loss so far of 34 pounds.  So I am now averaging about a pound and half per week.  I feel like I would like to step it up a bit.  I just have to stay the course.  I have always been the type of person to root for the underdog.  There were some things that I found to be disturbing over the last few weeks with underdogs in particular especially plus size ones.  A Facebook post really made me see red.  The post read something like this "I was standing behind a obese woman in Wallmart with her daughter.  She was checking out with things such as cookies, ice cream, whole milk, and soda.  I felt like I should look up a cardiologist on my cell phone and give her the number."  On so many levels this is so ignorant.  I understand very well that we have a weight problem today in the U.S.  However do I post such things on Facebook such as I was standing behind a person buying beer should I look up a liver specialist, or I was standing behind someone that was buying cigarettes, should I look up a lung specialist, If you are buying cold medication should I call a drug rehab specialist?  What if you are thin and you are buying junk food it doesn't count?  You get the general idea!  This is the main reason I as a obese person do not like to eat in front of other people and take my eating underground, because there is always someone there looking and judging.  How do we know this woman wasn't throwing a party, or buying for someone else?  Or for that matter that she just lost a 100 pounds and was dropping off the groceries to a friend.  We don't know.  This person that wrote this is thin and a health nut.  That is great!  However watch what you say to others.  Be kind you never know when someone is having a bad day.  I would never think to judge someone on what they are purchasing.  If in fact he had been standing behind me and did give me the number to a cardiologist I most likely would have left the store in tears leaving my groceries behind.  I have read that the U.S. is thinking about charging a extra tax on high in fat foods and foods that are bad for you.  If you really want it, you will pay it!  Also Airlines are now charging for two seats for obese passengers.  Okay so what exactly is the weight or size that you have to be to not be charged two seats?  Yes I go over my chair space, but I always sit next to a friend or relative that is understanding with me and doesn't mind.  Don't worry I won't be over flowing into your seat.  I have seen that look many times in my travels of "Oh please don't let the fat lady sit next to me".  Another post that I saw was about sweaty boob money.  I first looked at this post and was like huh?  Well as I read further it was about ladies of a certain size that store things in there bra.  So the money they put there gets sweaty and the girl posting this doesn't want the sweaty money.  Okay so don't worry ladies I will not be giving you sweaty boob money anytime soon.  I do admit though I do sore things there if I have no pockets.  Two post that really got me fired up over the last two weeks because of there insensitivity to others.  I can only imagine what these post are teaching our children.  We are trying to stop bullying in school, maybe some of the parents need to take a look at there own words and actions.  I will be very honest with you that after reading these two posts I really wanted to go binge because I was very angry.  I am happy to say that I did not do so.  No matter who or what your faults are remember no one is faultless.  Just because it's easier to see my faults than yours doesn't mean anything.  All things are possible. xo


Anonymous Anonymous said...

I must say I agree with much of what you've said. There is a serious problem in the way we communicate these days. With such technology as Facebook, Twitter, My Space and the like people are no longer picking up the phone or talking face to face. Our body language provides many good indicators for mood and the like that is absent in the typed technology world. Sadly the way I see things is the younger generations communication skills are poor as a result but it does also impact the older generations as well. There are also times ones opinions should be kept to themselves because as you've said one does not know the reason why someone is the way they are. There are genetic components to many reasons some face health issues whether it be abnormalities in weight/height/skin rashes/various diseases/overall appearance you name it. Many of these people struggle and struggle to overcome. Unfortunately many never understand and make fun of many .. it is only until one of them ends up finding themself in a position facing something that they then understand and are able to stop and think about what their past actions have done to others. Best thing is to love who you are. One of your continued supporters......Suzi

June 11, 2012 at 11:00 AM 

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